Email from my friend Alison

Adrian Chase sent me a lovely long email about how getting stuck in a rut can come about as the result of our basic human needs and resources being out of balance, and this set me thinking about how well I look after myself.

Having spent the last 21 years being a hands-on mum I’m now feeling a bit lost and redundant and wondering what my role in life is nowadays. His email reminded me to be gentle to myself, to treat myself in the same way I’d treat a friend or family member going through a rough time, rather than beating myself up and getting frustrated.

As a result I’ve started making more time for myself during the day, I’ve started appreciating the world around me more, I’ve begun swimming regularly, I’m eating more healthily, I’m journaling daily and I’m generally treating myself with love. All this has improved my mindset which has made getting out of the rut a much easier and more enjoyable process.


I was so pleased that Alison was able to make some changes in her life. It is really important to look after yourself and be the best that you can be. When you feel good about yourself you are in a brilliant position to then help others.

Anyone that has taken a flight will know that we are told to make sure that, if there is a problem, to always put your own oxygen mask on first in order that you can then help others.

I rest my case.