You know the use of language and words are so important when communicating with others in any situation. I cannot stress enough it’s not what you say it’s the way that you say it that really counts. This will have a direct impact on the responses you receive from others.
Asking a question in an open way will help the other person to respond with their true thoughts. If you were talking to someone and you really felt it was the right time to help you could say ‘Do you know I can help you?’ The problem here is it sounds more like a statement of fact, it’s a bit pushy. If you were to say ‘Would you like my help’ this sounds far less threatening and opens up the conversation. It invites a response and quite often results in further exploration of how you can help. When people learn to put words in the correct order It helps the other person to buy you rather than feel sold to. Remember no one really likes being told what to do. If it becomes their idea which is then repeated back to them why wouldn’t they want the solution explored.